Empowering Discussions

Reduce Stress & Anxiety: 10 Easy Ways To Live More With Less

Do you feel like you have too much stuff? Do you get anxiety about shopping? Do you believe that your worth is measured by what you own? I used to feel these ways, but by embracing a more minimalist lifestyle I’ve stopped allowing stuff to rule my life. Here are 10 simple actions to start your own journey to more mental and physical freedom from stuff!

  1. If you love to read, but have too many books, you can share and receive books from your neighborhood’s little library.
  2. Instead of spending hours at the mall shopping, host a clothing swap with your friends or larger community.
  3. Invest in 75% basic clothing pieces so your closet isn’t overflowing.
  4. Clear your calendar so you have one day or one partial day each week without plans.
  5. Instead of buying that cute, but unnecessary item, transfer that amount of money from your checking to savings account.
  6. Designate a box to hold things you haven’t used in a while. After 3 or 6 months if you haven’t needed that stuff sell it, donate it, or trade it for something you do need.
  7. Organize everything. Get rid of the stuff that you don’t use or put that stuff in storage.
  8. Think about why you shop. Is it to feel better? Is it to keep up with what’s trendy? If so, consider stopping yourself the next time you want to shop and do something that doesn’t require you to drag a reusable bag full of stuff home.
  9. Shred or recycle all the dated paperwork, birthday cards, and notes that clutter your desk. Consider scanning important documents and saving those on a USB or in the cloud.
  10. Start today or set a firm date on our calendar in the next 3 weeks. – Don’t keep putting it off.

I hope these 10 ways to reduce stress are helpful to you. I have used minimalism as one of many tools to heal my depression and anxiety. Back in the day I used retail therapy to feel good about life, but the thrill of new stuff never lasted long. It also pushed me into debt. Today I’m much healthier and happier cultivating experiences and friendships instead of amassing stuff as a way to give my life value. Check out the “Categories” drop down menu in the upper right corner for more healing resources and empowering discussions. Peace & hugs, Leah

I’m an artist & writer on a mission to bring healing arts into the mainstream by creating projects like Radical Zine a free online publication self-care, poetry and art.

Empowering Discussions

Walking Downtown in Broad Daylight

This is what it’s like to be a tween girl and realize that in our culture, your body doesn’t belong to you.
I understood this when I was in the 5th grade and noticed adult men leering at me, even when I was with my mom or brother, people that I was supposed to feel safe with, I didn’t. I felt exposed and embarrassed.
I have taught self-defense for seven years now. I feel safer to walk alone at night and in shorts. Yet, even just two weeks ago when it was 90 degrees and I chose to wear shorts, I was sexually harassed by a much older man. He was DISGUSTING. I had headphones in my ears to appear as if I wasn’t listening, but I could hear all the gross things he mentioned wanting to do to me. This was not a safe area. I did not feel safe in telling him chinga te. So I waited for the light to change and crossed the street. My stomach felt sick and my heart was so angry. I so wanted to hit that man, but I knew that if I did, I could be considered the assaulter and be arrested. Or worse, he could have hurt me. He was a large man. So I ignored him.
On the same walk at the same time, another younger man was following me on my scooter vying for my attention trying to start a conversation. I ignored him. He wasn’t saying anything rude. but it was clear by the third block I wasn’t talking to him. So at that moment he said ” I know you can hear me” and scootered off. It was annoying, but I wasn’t in the mood to have a conversation with him about how to leave women alone when they are not interested.
It is exhausting being female in this sexist culture we all contribute to creating. This is why I rarely say hello to men when I am walking. It’s why i always try to make eye contact with other women. It’s why I was uncomfortable and often fearful for most of my life to be alone in public. It’s why I don’t have any close straight male friends. I just don’t trust men. Why would I after decades of being sexually harassed?

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Empowering Discussions

Money Guilt and Privilege

Yesterday I was chatting about earning more money with my friend Clarice Connolly (Check out her awesomeness) and she asked if I had considered dog walking. I jokingly said, after this current dog sit for an anxious dog who glares at me, I would never do it again. What I realized in that moment is I’m done with focusing my energy on jobs that help pay the bills, yet don’t resonate with me and have nada in common with my goals. Another realization was that I have felt very guilty about my privilege of being able to get by when others are less fortunate. My being poor and my guilt doesn’t stop their suffering. It only adds new suffering to our community.
I feel so much joy with my new mindset of earning what I am worth and knowing that if I continue focusing on writing and creative work, I will continue to succeed. Just a few years ago I would only occasionally find odd writing jobs. It was frustrating, but it didn’t need to be. All that time, I have been building my writing portfolio. I simply wasn’t looking at it like that. I am good at it and my client reviews are 4-5 star.
As my perspective shifts I am feeling a shift in my whole body and my heart. It’s wild, I love it an I’m not going back to my old addictions of guilt and poverty.
Check out the previous post on my new definition of rich.


I’m an artist and writer with a focus on art therapy. If you would like to support my heart work, please consider becoming a monthly patron on Patreon.com/Loviedo. For $1 a month*, you can fund programs like my D.I.Y. Therapy: Healing Depression E-course, my monthly “Radical” e-zine and other creative healing projects, like “Cultivating Radical Self-Love: A Collaboration of Healers, Artists & Writers“.

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Poetry

Poem: One Moment in Eternity

 

One Moment in Eternity
A heavy day from seemingly nowhere.
The morning was bumpy; sticky with issues.
Queasy, I pushed through work, only wanting to crawl into bed.
The afternoon brought me outside.
Here I settle in the dirt.
Digging in the garden looking for peace of mind, peace in my heart.
I reach for the sun, feeling the leafs of plants and the cooling air.
I wonder what tomorrow will bring, try to stay in today and not let it go too fast.
Slipping from my grasp, the day is almost done.
Night has fallen on this early winter day.
Luna welcomes us all to see the stars, feel comfort in her brilliance, love nature and step outside for one moment in eternity.
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D.I.Y. Therapy

D.I.Y. Therapy: Listen To Your Body

Despite the years of heart-work I have put into healing, life is bumpy and I feel it. Things happen that cause me to feel sad and concerned. It’s a slippery slope that I’m well aware of. If I don’t take action, I will slide down into that dark valley of depression. Phuck that! I spent enough time down there, now I’m scaling mountain peaks!

One way I can do this, is by listening to my body and honoring what I need. Sometimes I need to rest and sometimes I need to move!

So yesterday when I woke up feeling sad, homesick and a little queasy, I chose movement as my boost. I walked around the park, played a few favorite songs, and stretched along the way. By the end of the walk, I was feeling balanced again.  Once I start moving, my body gets happy and then it tells my mind to get happy and then I can focus or face off on what is most important. Movement has been working great the past few years.  I dance more, sometimes even in public, I stretch regularly and I move when my body feels tight.

I also rest when I need to. So if your low energy or sadness is spurred by being everything and doing everything, make yourself slow down. Take a nap, go to bed earlier or sleep in later. Your body needs to rest! The older you get, the more rest it needs.

If you’re serious about depression, you also need to watch what you consume. Soda is out and vegetable juice is in!Eat vitamin rich foods. Especially make sure you take Vitamin D & B. Those can really help your energy level.

So if you are feeling low energy, listen to what your body needs. Healing depression is a whole-self journey. It’s mental, physical and emotional. Let yourself explore what feels good and what wears you out. Decide for yourself what you need, don’t just rely on what works for someone else. Healing starts with you!

PS. If you want more support, I created a free e-course to help with depression D.I.Y. Therapy: Healing Depression. Its FREE, you don’t have to sign up or pay. I created it because I know the pain of depression.

 


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