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D.I.Y. Therapy: Is Mental Illness an Asset? MIke Veny Says YES!

Mike Veny wants is to look at your depression as an asset not a liability. His TED Talk is about “..transforming the stigma surronding mental health into strength.”

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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D.I.Y. Therapy: Move Over Anxiety, I Choose To Be Happy

Anxiety seems to come out of nowhere, knocking me backwards into the fear zone. I suddenly don’t want to continue with whatever it is I need to do. I want to go hide under a rock and give up. Physically I feel sick in my stomach. Mentally I start thinking about all that can go wrong and begin visualizing scenarios of myself failing miserably. Next are tears building up and ready to pour. My thoughts turn dark, “what’s wrong with me”, “why can’t I do anything right”, “how can I be such a loser”.

Goodby balance! Hello panic attack!

Do you ever feel like this? I know from talking with friends that anxiety comes in different forms with different feelings. One thing that is the same though is how difficult anxiety is to stop. Sometimes I don’t even realize I’m getting sucked into the fear zone. It’s so uncomfortably familiar, as if I never left.

Slowly I’ve been teaching myself to stop anxiety as soon as I feel the dull ache and dark clouds. I have a mantra and I’m sharing it with you in hopes that you can utilize it or be inspired to create your own. This is what I tell anxiety.

I RECOGNIZE WHAT IS HAPPENING.

MOVE OVER ANXIETY!

I CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.

I AM OKAY.

I AM OKAY.

I AM OKAY!

textgram_1445392647Does it really work?

Yes. It really does. Because this is a trigger mantra for me.

Once I say this I can remember that I’m strong and that mistakes and wrong turns are just lessons. I tell myself that I’m safe, I’m loved, I’m skilled, I love life and that life is an adventure. Oftentimes I remind myself that the anxiety I’m feeling is about something that HAS NOT HAPPENED so I need to relax.

My next step is to slow my breathing back to normal and either continue with my task at hand or take a break and focus on something peaceful. Remembering positive experiences where I took control of my life or successfully completed a project really helps me to KNOW that I really am okay now and I will be okay no matter what happens.

IF YOU TRY THIS PLEASE SHARE IF IT WORKED FOR YOU OR NOT?

IF NOT, WHAT DOES WORK FOR YOU?

This is just ONE of many lessons I’m learning as I heal and grow. If you’re ready to heal, read my other posts about D.I.Y. Therapy.

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D.I.Y. Therapy: Setting Intention and Committng to Heal. Are You Ready?

Are you ready to heal?

You must answer YES for any of my guidance to help. If you aren’t ready and willing to end your depression the following advice and resources won’t help. The hard truth is real sustainable healing starts within your own mind and body.

I wasn’t ready for a long time, but there came a day when I realized that the only thing I was ready for was to heal. Without healing my depression, my grief and my fears I knew nothing I created would ever be whole. I would never really be happy or balanced.

Be prepared. You must create a solid attitude adjustment if you want to heal. Ending depression doesn’t happen overnight. You might feel great after reading this and doing the exercises in my D.I.Y. Therapy Series, ut if you don’t commit to long-term action your depression will return. For most of us depression is a life long issue. It may never go away completely, but we can continue to live through each stage and move forward for better futures. Each time you’re able to stop depression from taking hold you will get stronger and it will become easier to stop.

Life is filled with stress, failures, grief and loss. These will knock you off-balance and bend you into a pretzel, but with determination you can always straighten yourself and return to center. Remember that only you are in control.

Say it out loud!

“I’M IN CONTROL”

“I CHOOSE BALANCE”

“I WILL THRIVE”

The dirtiest job will be facing your fears.

For me it was facing the fear of failure. I used to allow that fear to stop me from trying very hard. More and more though I am able to stop my fear and remind myself that it is okay to fail. It is okay because I love myself unconditionally and refuse to allow fear to beat me down.

So….. are you ready to heal?

If you answered YES start reading my D.I.Y. Therapy Series.

 

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D.I.Y. Therapy: It’s Time To Heal By Releasing Those Expectations

Life is going to give you all sorts of expectations. Some are great, like expecting to be respected and being happy. Others like expecting people to change for you or the idea that if only you had that one ‘important thing’ you’d be happy.

textgram_1398055224If you want to heal, you must release the expectations that life owes you anything other than the opportunity to be alive. Release the thoughts that others should be more considerate, that you should be happier, that life should be easier. Don’t SHOULD all over yourself.

So you had a bad day and everyone is in your way? Release the expectation that others should feel your pain or get out of your way and be nice to you. They have their own stuff to deal with and have a right to be here. Change your attitude. Watch a funny video or meditate.

So you don’t like your job, but need to keep it while you actively find something better? Release the expectation that you should have found a better job already. Embrace the moment you are in and allow yourself to be happy while you wait for and work toward this new transition.

So your grief is too powerful for smiles and sunshine? Release the expectation that you must put on a brave face. Allow yourself to feel the sadness of loss. It’s okay for others to know you are sad. Being sad is not a weakness. It is a valid emotion.

Remember there will be days and moments when life is devastating or annoying. That’s okay. You are capable of overcoming obstacles and moving forward! RELEASE the expectation that you deserve an easy path in life.

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D.I.Y. Therapy: Finding Your Happiness and Following Your Truth

Life is challenging and how we react to this is what decides our happiness. We can give up or we can move forward. For many years I gave up. I barely tried and ended up wallowing in pain and depression that lasted way too long.  Luckily I woke up and realized that my life was in my control. I taught myself to be happy by learning my own truth, trusting my struggle and staying focused on creating a life that I would enjoy.

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How did I find my truth? By asking myself questions and then taking action.

What makes me happy in the long run as opposed to instant gratification?

What are my true passions?

Am I willing to move forward beyond my fear and live a life that resonates as true happiness with my inner self?

Once I began to answer these questions I began to take action. I started writing, published books, became a self-defense instructor, read every self-help book I could find and asked for help. It wasn’t easy. Some days are hard and I forget my truth, but I always come back. I know that you can do this too. You just have to make the choice to find your truth and LIVE IT!

 An important aspect of staying happy is to find things and activities that make you feel good AND are also good for you. You probably won’t find happiness at the bottom of a tequila bottle or immersing yourself in angry depression movies, books and music. When I was in the process of healing I gave up those things for more positive entertainment. If you also choose positive reinforcement throughout your daily life, you’ll see a change in your thoughts which will in turn change your feelings.

 When I’m feeling mentally strung out I really like HUGS, positive affirmations and time with people who love me without judgement. To keep my physical body feeling good I gave up the daily sodas and twinkies and instea choose flavorful healthy foods and lots of movement.  Yoga, swimming, paddbleboarding and walking really keep my energy up and on par with my positive mental state.

Remember there will be days and moments when you won’t be happy. That’s okay. You’re an imperfectly perfect being. Embrace that reality and RELEASE the expectation to always be bright and cheerful.

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