Book Reviews

Book review: “Crossroads: Women Coming of Age in Today’s Uganda”

What a great book. I was gifted a copy of this a few weeks ago and truly enjoyed reading the stories.

“Crossroads: Women Coming of Age in Today’s Uganda” is a collection of essays by women of various ages and areas across Uganda. These stories are somewhat foreign yet several of their experiences are familiar despite the different circumstances.

I greatly enjoyed the stories where I could relate to how the women reacted to the changes as they grew from child to adult. It’s quite amazing how quickly change happens throughout a lifetime. It’s also somewhat surprising to realize how much hasn’t changed.

The essays about the challenges of relationships, both hetero- and homosexual, changing education methods, religion and spirituality, dealing with sexual assault and the evolution of gender roles will seem familiar to many western readers.

On the other hand, essays about hiding from militants during a civil war, the downside to NGO’s or charity from the “west”, extreme poverty and the pull of ancient African spirituality may seem farther away than just across the ocean.

All in all these stories shed a bright and optimistic light on the continually changing roles of women in Uganda. In the theme of individual empowerment, no matter how slowly we move forward humanity will continue to evolve and progress is unstoppable.

–If you enjoy reading about life, progress and change I recommend this book.

–If you want to learn more about the world and see how women’s rights and roles are changing you should definitely read this book.

–This book would be a great gift for any feminist, young or old, male or female.

Learn more about the book and authors at www.uganda-crossroads.net

Buy a copy at www.amazon.com/gp/product/B014QBPALM/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1

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Free Coloring Book: Peace, Love and Weirdness

Life can be stressful; sometimes we need to slow down and choose activities with no real attachment or set goal in mind. The simple act of coloring is a great action for relaxing, balance, and meditation. Since I love to draw and color, I created a coloring book that’s free to download. “Peace Love and Weirdness” is offbeat and includes positive affirmations for cultivating healthier thoughts.

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Empowering Discussions

Why Representation of Everybody is Good For Everybody: Ending Negative Stereotypes

Because of the high-profile of Hilary Clinton in the international arena, there’s a lot of speculation right now about the chance that the next president of the USA could be a woman. Other countries have already elected women presidents and prime ministers. Women are rulers and warriors, but we rarely see them on the elementary school walls next to our founding fathers. Seeing a woman president doesn’t just give girls and women ideas of what they can accomplish. It gives young and impressionable boys a more well-rounded way of looking at their female peers. When those boys grow up they will not only see women as objects or less than them, but as equals competent at running a country, not just a household. As men they can support their female peers to have as much privilege as they do.

It’s the same as seeing Misty Copeland dance as the FIRST African-American Principle dancer in the American Ballet. Now, not only can aspiring black and brown girls see themselves in that role, but so can their male counterparts who will one day be on stage with them believing that women of color belong in leading roles.

We need to see BLACK males as happy, successful, kind and good fathers to end the violent thug and drug dealing gangster stereotypes.

We need to see independent and intelligent LATINAS as leaders in our communities, not as sex objects or maids.

We need to see intelligent and accomplished NATIVE AMERICANS in politics, onscreen and n every industry, not as victims of colonialism or dressed in beads wasting away on reservations.

We need to see ASIAN actors in dramas, comedies and romance, not just as kung fu masters, mail order brides or sidekicks.

We need to see strong and independent INDIAN women who are not silent victims of acid attacks, sexism or rape.

We need to see women and men of color in our LGBTQ communities as loving parents, not as tokens.

We need to see those who are DISABLED as competent and suitable to succeed in business, science or as athletics, not as damsels in distress waiting for us to save them.

It’s not just young children who need to see them so they too can become all they can imagine and more. It is ALL OF US who need to see this so we can stop our snap judgements and prejudiced views. We need to see real diversity so we can insure that everyone has an equal chance. For those of us with privilege, in whatever form it is, it’s time to step up, to pull strings and level the playing field so we no longer have the upper hand. We must do this not as if we are the only ones who can “save” others who have less, but as their equals. We won’t lose as much as we think, but we will gain so much more!

WHAT STEREOTYPE ARE YOU SICK OF?

WHAT NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES DO YOU HOLD?

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D.I.Y. Therapy: Cry Baby Cry! Let Out Pain and You Can Let In Peace

Go ahead and CRY. It’s okay to let out that pent-up pain. Yes happiness is one of our goals, but we are imperfect beings and we feel sadness.  Our real goal is to find BALANCE. 

1454970375585Why do we stop ourselves from expressing negative emotions? If you’ve lived as long as me or are an emotionally intelligent person than you have noticed by now that denying, ignoring and stopping ourselves and others from expressing negative emotions only gives those negatives more strength.

There is a healthy strength in allowing yourself to cry when you can’t hold in the pain any longer. Crying releases the toxic negative buildup residing in our bodies. Crying gives us relief.

For me I used to cry so easily. The tiniest prick would have me slumped on the floor. So I nagged and berated myself about it. I was so cruel, calling myself a “stupid useless idiot”. The more frustrated I became with my pain and tears the more I cried. I trapped myself in a nasty cycle. I felt like I would be stuck in it forever.

But then I started reading wisdom from others who had felt similar pains, who held in hate and sought revenge for the pain others caused me. I listened openly to their words and found a comfort in learning two very important lessons.

The first lesson was that I was not alone in my pain. There were many more like me. Some of them survived and some gave up under the weight. I decided I wanted to survive.

The second lesson was that I could heal if I learned to go, to focus on what really matters be it good or bad. I learned that not every prick deserved a cry. I learned to shed my tears for the gut punches. A small cut requires medicine and a bandage. Those big painful knock-outs require much more. They need a cleansing.

Crying is a cleanse. It allows you to rinse away the lingering disease and heal.

So go ahead and CRY!

DO YOU FEEL BETTER AFTER YOU CRY?

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Book Review “Shortcuts to Mindfulness: 100 Ways to Personal and Spiritual Growth” by Catherine Auman LMFT.

In the book, “Shortcuts to Mindfulness: 100 Ways to Personal and Spiritual Growth” by Catherine Auman, LMFT, I like how the author begins with the harshest truth of individual empowerment, “It’s a painful process; there are no two ways about it.”

From my own experience  with therapy there are no easy fixes when it comes to self-development. It takes patience, work and a desire to practice what we learn. I felt like her 100 shortcuts are very powerful for long-term change. I say this with the wisdom of experience as much of her advice are things I learned when I first decided to commit to change and a few I’m still in the process of learning.

Some of my favorite shortcuts were knowing its okay to not be happy all the time, that meditation is a great tool to take control of our thoughts and that listening to music with positive messages can boost your physical and emotional strength.

While most self-help authors stick to one particular point in our quest for self-love, Catherine highlights simple actions and ideas we can use to create change in ALL aspects of our lives when we choose, without weighing ourselves down by taking on too much work.

I recommend this book for those who are just starting on the path of individual empowerment as well as those who are looking for more guidance.

Find her book at http://www.amazon.com/Catherine-Auman-LMFT-Shortcuts-Mindfulness/dp/B00RWS8TCY

I contacted Catherine and asked her to share her favorite mindfulness practice. Below is her response.

“My favorite mindfulness practice is when I can remember, to remind myself to BE in the present moment. Not the past, not the imaginary future. If the past or the future want attention, I will give it to them, then gently return, as I can, to the perfect now.

This is also one of my shortcuts, because if we could be in the moment, now, there would be no need for any other practice.

Of course, being human, I still struggle with this. But more and more, it seems less like a struggle, and more like a leela, the play of life.” Catherine Auman

 

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What's Your Story

Kiyoshi’s Journey: A Hip Hop Balancing Act of Inner Peace and Sustainable Living

This guest post is part of the What’s Your Story project here on this blog.

My name is Kiyoshi Shelton.  My artist name is Kiyoshi.  I was born in Saginaw, Michigan and received my first introduction to music from my father who is a music teacher.  He was a band director who always taught different bands growing up like the high school marching band and the jazz band.  My father started me out playing guitar when I was an 8 year old child and I would make up songs on my guitar when I was a child.  All of my siblings played instruments. My oldest brother Akira became a professional jazz musician as a teenager and would later produce the majority of my music to this day.  My brother Akira used to break-dance and play Yo MTV raps and popular rap songs during the 1988-early 1990’s golden era of hip hop so this is how I got introduced to hip hop and learning about rap music.

In addition to being heavily into music, our family was also a very church-going Christian family that attended church multiple times during the week.  In 9th grade, I began rapping at church and writing poems and raps during my high school classes.  I would rap at church often and the following year, I soon began entering youth poetry slam competitions.

In college, I was known for winning a lot of the local talent shows and soon built my reputation as one of Metro Detroit’s most creative and talented artists when I lived in Ann Arbor, Michigan.

The year after graduating from Eastern Michigan University, in 2006, I read the book “The Secret.”  I discovered “the law of attraction” and that opened the door for me to begin reading various spiritual and self help books and watching countless youtube videos on spirituality, conspiracy theories, and the mind-body connection.  I started getting more into spirituality, metaphysical studies, and learning about different religions around this time.

In 2008, a friend of mine told me about the benefits of yoga and how it could also help me perform better as a performer.  The first yoga class I took was a hot bikram yoga class in Ann Arbor, Michigan in the winter of 2008.  I enjoyed it but because of the high cost per class, I didn’t pursue yoga until 4 years later.

In 2010, I decided to move to San Diego after attending a self-help/how-to-make-more-money-and-better-your-life seminar in downtown San Diego.  I felt the calling to move to San Diego because of the lovely, warm weather and I felt deep down inside that it was the place where I was going to grow a lot.

In February of 2011, my girlfriend at the time and I packed our bags, drove cross-country, and I started a job as an admissions counselor at a University in San Diego.  It was a job where you were required to talk on the phone in a cubicle for the majority of the day.  After a while, I got fed up with the repetitive nature of the job and felt stuck.  I start noticing myself get heavier as I was eating a lot of the delicious Mexican and other San Diego restaurant foods I wasn’t accustomed to.

I knew I needed a change and in the beginning of 2012, I decided to workout and run regularly during my lunch breaks and eat way healthier. I started attending conscious events and yoga festivals in the Spring of 2012 and was hooked ever since.  I was meeting super friendly people who were in shape and driven in life.  The atmospheres of the yoga events I attended were very heart-based and full of love.  Most of the people were so welcoming and non-judgemental.  I loved everything about yoga.  It complemented my lifestyle as a performer and overall person.  It made me feel more alive and in tune with my body.  I could think clearer, I was able to dance more freely, and feel more confident about myself.  As a result of my healthy eating lifestyle, regular yoga practice, and working out at the gym, I lost 20 lbs and was feeling better than ever.

Since then, I have been an active part of the yoga community here in San Diego and have made many lifetime friends because of yoga.  Some of my closest friends are these two guys named Dru and Crisanto.  They go by the name “Mental Physix.” (www.mentalphysix.com)   I met them at a yoga class in San Diego that they were DJing at.  I found out after the class that they come from a similar hip hop background like myself and are also heavily into yoga and doing music.  The first time we hung out was at Bhakti Fest in Joshua Tree, California (www.bhaktifest.comhttp://www.bhaktifest.com) We started hanging out more, traveling together, performing together, and collaborating on different projects together.

2012 was a pivotal and significant year for me in regards to growing as a person and musician. In 2012, I decided to create a project that was empowering and inspirational, different from the typical hiphop on the radio.  I wanted to bring more balance into the world of music and hip hop.  Understanding the power of affirmations, I decided to do something unique and have each chorus/song title on this project serve as a positive affirmation.

Since its release, I have performed at many music and yoga events like Bhakti Fest, Shakti Fest, One Love Movement Fest, and others.  I have performed rap, spoken word, and music in yoga classes and yoga dance parties.  My music is very uplifting with positive messages and the topics in the songs I write range from talking about health to chakras to dancing to current social issues people face.  I even have a song I am working on with the Los Angeles legend: DJ Drez.

My mission is to actualize social change through the collective power of music, dance, and community while restoring balance, inspiration and respect to the Hip-Hop and global arenas. My music engages audiences worldwide with a highly interactive, exhilarating and authentic stage performance, while conveying a clear message of positivity, health, sustainability, social justice, and Love.

KiyoshiI am now a 34 year old yogi, inspirational music artist, and passionate lover of health and fitness.  I currently reside in sunny San Diego and always find time to attend the numerous conferences and festivals in and around this beautiful state of California.  After moving here from Ann Arbor, Michigan two years ago, my life has changed dramatically.  I have consistently practiced yoga since early 2012 and since that time, I have grown tremendously spiritually and mentally.  Festivals such as the SDYoga journal conference, Bhakti Fest, and the Tadasana Festival have all had a significant, positive impact upon me.

In addition to yoga and acro-yoga, I occupy my time by creating/writing music, ecstatic dancing, attending music festivals, laughing and cracking jokes with my family/friends, working out, reading and watching films, hula-hooping, surrounding myself with like-minded individuals, spending time at the beach, hiking, puppetry, and enjoying life in every moment.  Loving, laughing, and learning are 3 principles in which I live by.

Today, with over 15 years of creating rhythms and rhymes, I have toured internationally to perform at socially conscious events, festivals, and venues all over. I plan to get my yoga teacher’s certification some time this year, continue inspiring through hip hop, touring with Mental Physix, and bring our shamanic rhythms to classes all over the world.

Be inspired, visit Kiyoshimusic.com or follow on Facebook and Twitter.

 

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Activism Graffiti: Hold Accountable

Who holds our leaders accountable. Let’s just toss a coin and let chance decide… 😉

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Seen on an abandoned building in Lynchburg, VA.

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New Art: Turning Litter Into Love

Sometimes I see litter on our beautiful planet and just walk on by feeling disgusted and disappointed, but most of the time Iook for a trash receptacle or bag to pick it up. I live my life as much as possible by the syaing, “The Earth does not belong to us, we belong to the earth.”

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When I saw these candy wrappers I just couldn’t resist. I had to turn this litter into love.

Creating art outside in nature is so balancing. I love to take walks in the park and stop to create art out of leaves, flowers, pine cones, rocks, twigs or even litter. I become so absorbed in the process that I rarely notice when someone has stopped out of curiosity to watch me.

What do you think?

Have you ever made temporary art outside?

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D.I.Y. Therapy: Is Mental Illness an Asset? MIke Veny Says YES!

Mike Veny wants is to look at your depression as an asset not a liability. His TED Talk is about “..transforming the stigma surronding mental health into strength.”

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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New Art: Circular Magic

This material was a lucky find. The blue irridescant rocks really compliment the red berries and speckled concrete.

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Creating art outside in nature is so balancing. I love to take walks in the park and stop to create art out of leaves, flowers, pine cones, rocks, twigs or even litter. I become so absorbed in the process that I rarely notice when someone has stopped out of curiosity to watch me.

 

Here’s a video I created to inspire more outdoor art creations.

What do you think?

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