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Lacking Limits : Are We Truly Capable of Anything?

Last weekend I watched 4 TED Talk videos from 4 different women who turned disabilities into ABILITIES. I was amazed as I watched these 4 videos in succession. Usually I see things that amaze others, but seem normal to me and think, “Oh Yea! Not everyone has figured this out. Why the hell not?”.  However, sometimes I see something that amazes me and I think, “Wow! I am totally holding myself back. How did I not know this?”.

It’s those moments when I realize how much I have to learn and how much I have to grow. Life is a constant journey. Sometimes I take wrong turns and hit dead ends, but I am capable of U-turns and driving over or around obstacles. I adapt and so do you. WE ARE ADAPTERS! If you make it out of the womb alive you have already proven that you can adapt. So no more thinking those dead ends are THE END. Break through your limitations and learn something new.

Amy Purdy – Living Beyond Limits.  Award winning snowboarder who lost her legs. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2QZM7azGoA

Janine Shephard – You Are Not Your Body.  From partially paralyzed to aerobatic pilot. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ltDJynTduY

Caroline Casey – Looking past Limits. What if you didn’t know you were mostly blind?  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YyBk55G7Keo

Aimee Mullins – The Opportunity of Adversity.  She was born DISabled, but didn’t let that label define her.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTwXeZ4GkzI

 What lesson have you learned that originally seemed like an unfair reality?

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The Power of Community: Gardening at Carpentier Parkway in Cardiff, CA

On Saturday I got up early even though I wanted to sleep in for a change, but the payoff was magnificent. I got some color on my skin,  met new people in my community, and played in the dirt. It was the annual Spring Fling in Cardiff where neighbors get together to help out at the beautiful Carpentier Parway. This roadside attraction leads you down a winding path in between trees and bushes and flowers galore.  It is so empowering to complete some hard physical labor. Nothing else fills quite so worthwhile when I am so tired I can barely move. I was there for 5 hours and LOVED every minute of it. I got to meet and work with a whole new set of people of different ages and backgrounds who made the job even more fun. Hey, playing in the dirt is always fun for me. I love to garden and do so often.  Together we helped spruce up the already gorgeous parkway by transferring rose vines, planting bushes, trimming plants, hauling away debris, and laying down some beautiful red cedar.  Working with others you may never meet otherwise is one major joy of volunteering.

Community garden, Cardiff California, Caprentier Parkway, Linda Lee horticulturist, Leah Oviedo author
Working the Carpentier Parkway in Cardiff, California
Carpentier Parkway, Cardiff California, Community Gardening
Carpentier Parkway in Cardiff, California.

I was lucky to be joined by my brother who is always there when I ask for others to join me in my volunteering adventures.  Meeting Linda Lee, the creator of the park was an extra treat. She transformed a bland unhealthy area into a beautiful parkway for all residents and visitors to enjoy. Before reading about her work in the paper last year I had assumed the city was responsible for this parkway. Instead Linda approached the city to improve it and to use organic and sustainable practices while keeping the fees for park maintenance less than the original plan. You can read about Linda in the Coast News.

http://thecoastnews.com/2013/01/linda-lee-the-magician-behind-carpentier-parkway-landscape/

WHAT COMMUNITY PROJECTS ARE YOU LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS SUMMER?

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What did you do this weekend?

On Sunday morning, I walked along the Oceanside beach for about a mile and filled up a 13 gallon bag with cans, plastic bottles, and glass bottles. I also filled and refilled a small beach bucket with trash 3 times. I even picked up cigarette butts with my bare hands because I was so disgusted that this beautiful beach was treated so terribly. It was sad to walk alone picking up trash. I had 5 people tell me thank you for picking up trash, but as nice as that was all I thought was, why don’t they pick up some trash?

recycling at the beach, recycle in Oceanside California
13 gallon bag of cans, glass bottles, and plastic bottles on Oceanside Beach in California.

So….what did you do this weekend?

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Celebrating ALL Mothers – Guardians, Step-Parents, Grandmothers, Aunts, Foster Parents, and Dad’s too!

I am one of those lucky enough to have an amazing mother whose actions and words never had me doubting her love.  In this world, that right there makes me far better off than any Millionaire, Billionaire, Idolized Celebrity, or Youthful Heir.  Love may not be all we need, but it is the foundation for all we achieve.  Whether your “mother” is female, male, or even related, if that person loved you than make sure you let them know more than once a year. I have seen many different mothers out there that did not give birth to their child(ren), but loved an cared for them as if they had. In the spirit of Mothers Day here are two posts I want to share with you. Enjoy!

Happy MOTHERING Day from a Step-parent!  “MOTHER-ing Day I am the verb of “Mother”, Not the noun. I am the action, the do-er, The think-er, the creat-er I am not…” finish the poem and read the post at http://kimberlyharding.wordpress.com/2013/05/11/what-we-should-be-celebrating-on-mothers-day

What we see depends on our individual experiences.  In this post a woman shares a memory when her mother visited her English class in High School. http://warnerwriting.wordpress.com/2013/05/11/what-we-see/

If you found a great article or photo about celebrating motherhood please leave a link to that in a comment below.  Thanks!

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Book Marketing Idea: Hosting a Readathon!

Most days I have no idea what I am doing and not just in regards to marketing my books.  On the days when I do, life just sparkles. I had one of the most insufferable and stressful days on Tuesday. I kept telling myself to shake it off with no success. Wednesday was so much better. I SOLD A BOOK!  Even though it’s only a profit of small change, that MADE MY DAY! It was enough to lift my mood and the rest of the day was a breeze. This was especially true when  compared to the day before.

My goal is to sell 10,000 books in a year so I continue to market with quirky ideas that seem to have a minimal impact, but are doing a great job of increasing the popularity of my books. In the spirit of selling 10,00o copies, one of my goals is to have 10,000 reads of my books. Since they are free to read online this should be a piece of cake. Right?

What do YOU think of this idea?

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Join my Readathon!

 https://www.facebook.com/events/427652753998135/?fref=ts

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What do you say when your teenager’s classmate commits suicide?

Sunday was a gorgeous day and I was on my way out the door to catch the bus when my roommates 13 year old daughter walked up the steps. She had been down the street at her church’s youth group. I asked how her class was and she offered the usual response of  “It was good”, but then she stopped and turned to me. “Something bad happened….. One of the boys in my group killed himself.” She went on to tell me about his situation, how had been louder at school lately and how he was sad because his dad was shipped off to Afghanistan again. All the boys at church were crying over their friend who had been so loved. She wasn’t that close to him, but I decided to wait a while and chat just in case.  While my first instinct was to leave so I wouldn’t miss my bus, I knew there would be another bus. I vividly remember the pain when my friends older brother killed himself as a teenager. I wasn’t leaving till I knew she was okay. We ended up talking for a bit.  We talked about feeling so bad you want to hurt yourself, about my experience at her age with my friend, and about how she had many people who loved her. Then she started a funny movie and I left knowing her mom would be home within the hour.

There are 3 very important and simple things you can tell a young person in this situation.

1. It is OKAY to have bad thoughts, to be sad, and to feel anger. These are feelings most humans have. I remember a time when I was so angry and sad, that I did not want to tell anyone because I felt my thoughts were too awful and I would be looked down for thinking that way.

2. If you ever need to talk, I will listen without any judgement. I am here for you and care for you. There is nothing you can do to make me stop caring for you.

3. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I have been through hard times where I wanted to give up, but instead I chose to work through those problems and find solutions. Life gets worse and life gets better. You are capable of overcoming any problem you face.

Take the time to talk to your child, your niece, nephew, grandchild, or friends child. Stop and make sure they are really okay. Let them know you care about them and want them to be happy. Even at the teenage stage, you have more influence than you realize. Talk, hug, and be available.

What would you tell a young person confronted with the suicide of their peers?

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Attention Men and Boys. You Are Being Pigeonholed as Violent Cavemen Who Are Incapable of Equality

Last week I saw a post online from my younger male cousin. He shared an experience in his sociology class. The professor asked everyone in the class to raise their hands if they identified as “feminists”. He was the only person in the class of men and women, to raise his hand. He went on to say how his then professor shared a definition and more information on the word feminism.  The professor asked again and this time more students raised their hands.

When I heard his recounting of events I was filled with pride. This is a twenty-two year old male living in  a very conservative state  the USA. I also felt sad that so many men are unable to identify with a term that implies equality between sexes. With the recent news of teen gang rape cases taking center stage in the USA and India, I worry about my nephews who are growing up in a world that constantly tells them they must be tough, play rough, and believe that women are here for their sexual enjoyment or for cleaning their homes. Luckily there is some good news about people are doing to change the way media and culture raise the next generation.

A program in India called” Parivaratan” is being implemented in Mumbai schools to curb sexual harassment and assault by teaching boys appropriate ways to interact with girls.  http://www.icrw.org/media/news/changing-better

Brazil has launched a program to educate men on how to end violence against women called “Ring the Bell”. This worldwide initiative  is a partner with the Clintn Global Initiative.  http://www.promundo.org.br/noticias/campanha-global-vencedora-de-premios-convida-homens-e-meninos-a-tomarem-medidas-para-prevenir-a-violencia-contra-mulheres/

The wife of the Lt. Governor of California urged game developers to stop stereotyping women as only sexy characters  in video game. She was speaking at the GDC, Game Developers Conference in San Francisco on March 27th, 2013 http://venturebeat.com/2013/03/27/californias-second-lady-games-need-to-think-bigger-about-portrayals-of-women/

The documentary MissRepresentation focused on how women and girls are disgusting portrayed in the media as sex objects. Director Jennifer Siebel Newsom directed that film and is currently working on a second called, The Mask You Live In. This film focuses on the detrimental impact of imposed masculinity onto men and boys.  http://www.missrepresentation.org/themaskyoulivein/

What Are You Doing To Promote Equality Between Women and Men?

How Can Parents, Coaches, and Mentors Talk To Boys About Respecting Women?

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Book Marketing – Philanthropy and Photo Testimonials

This week I was downtown on a emotional high after a wonderful meeting with two amazing women. As I walked around drinking some tea  I saw a sign asking for book donations. I just happened to have an extra copy of my book, “How Will You Create Positive Change?”  in my bag. So I dropped my book in the box. Then I turned around and took a photo of the book with the donation sign. I posted it on Facebook and had a few likes.  Low cost marketing. Will it work? I have no idea, but my book will be seen by people I other wise may have never met. Hopefully it will get passed around and spark some conversation. Feel free to share this photo wherever you like.

donating books for marketing, philanthropy and entrepreneurs

I have donated about a dozen books over the past 2 years just to get my name out there. I have donated for online auctions and local raffles. As my budget grows I plan on donating many more books.  I think the most important part of donating is to do so as publicly as possible. Hey, you are helping someone out after all, the least they can do is make sure you get recognition for your act of kindness.

This photo-op has inspired me to ask everyone I know that has a book to take a photo of themselves with the book and send it to me. I will add these photos to my upcoming website. The first photo I have so far is a family friend who I gave a book to yesterday. What a trooper! Thanks Sandy.

How Will You Create Positive Change. books by Leah Oviedo, free book marketing

What Do You Think of Photo Marketing?

Have You Received Any Good Leads from Donating Your Books?

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UP TO YOU: A call to action and a book marketing plan

With the publication of my latest book,  “How Will You Create Positive Change?”, I have created an initiative to encourage community volunteerism and maybe even sell some books along the way.  It is called Up To You, because we each have to BE the change we want to see and it really is up to us. Volunteering is an easy way to create a better world which includes safer and healthier communities for ourselves and our families.

So far, I have a logo, a Facebook page, and a marketing plan already done. I am asking all 16 of the featured people in this book to create a short video about their work and this initiative. I am creating banner ads, sending out press releases, and soon will print some shirts with the logo (below) to giveaway. The logo is an arrow for UP, a peace sign for TO(two) and a U for you.  I love this logo. It’s now in the top ten of my designs.

changeisup2u, up to you, volunteerism

volunteer organization, local volunteer opportunities

The Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/changeisup2u

I started volunteering in college and love to see the rewards of helping and supporting my community.  It also happens to be a good way of making friends and networking. This ability to help without expectations of return is a wonderful aspect of life. I believe we are ALL capable of it. Even the monsters of my past have done amazingly kind acts for others. Don’t bother trying to convince me that anyone is incapable of volunteering. They may not be willing, but that’s a different story.

WHAT’S YOUR VOLUNTEER STORY?

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Role Model: Linda Le of San Diego Veg Fest

Do you ever think about the food you eat and what all those ingredients are that you can’t pronounce without a dictionary? As technology has progressed much of our food has become processed, full of preservatives, and plumped up with hormones. While our food may last longer and cost less, it isn’t necessarily healthier. Linda Le started San Diego Veg Fest to give the opportunity for others to learn about healthier and tastier foods. Her work has the added bonuses of being environmentally sustainable and bringing together members of her community.

What was your inspiration or what necessitated you to begin this adventure? San Diego Veg Festival emerged from my passion for healthy and compassionate living. I saw the need for a veg festival. Being a San Diego native (I was raised here most of my life and lived in the Bay Area for 6 years for college), I was surprised we didn’t have a veg festival considering the fact that every big, metropolitan city in the US has a veg festival.

As a daughter of Vietnamese American refugees, I am thankful for my background. I grew up with access to year-round, fresh produce. It was there in the comfort of my parents’ backyard garden that I developed an understanding of the interconnected energy between what we consume and how it affects our planet. I spent time meditating with a very inspirational and compassionate Sangha in Oakland, California during my undergraduate studies in the Bay Area. They inspired me to frequent monasteries where I volunteered in the organic gardens and cultivated compassionate eating. Such experiences taught me to honor the practice of mindful, vegan eating—with such lasting impacts that I underwent a spiritual awakening.

Recent events such as the declaration of National Food Day on October 24th, the contributions of the First Lady’s Let’s Move campaign, and the presence of Proposition 37 on this year’s California ballot have helped to really push the issue of health to the forefront of our public consciousness. We can see it at the local level in San Diego. We have about 70 restaurants that offer veg-friendly items on their menus, and that list keeps growing. We are not converting people–rather, we want to educate people of healthy lifestyle choices and plant the seeds of consciousness.

I get inspiration from many areas of my life. There is so much inspiration in our daily lives if we choose to be aware. I follow current news, community events, policies, campaigns in order to understand the dynamic world that we live in. I look at leaders from our past and present for inspiration also. One in particular is a compassionate, Zen Buddhist Monk named ThichNhatHanh. I find his quote very inspiring: “Each moment is a chance for us to make peace with the world, to make peace possible for the world, to make happiness possible for the world.” It makes me feel like my personal eating choices are not so personal because this singular action has a ripple effect on our immediate environment. 

What steps did you take to create your program?  It started off as a side project while I was the Managing Director of San Diego Health Fairs (SDHF). At the time, which was last spring of 2012, I was working with an intern at SDHF. Business was going well with SDHF but I felt like there was something more I could be doing to contribute to the health of San Diegans. With the launch of Our Greater San Diego Vision, I felt compelled to think about the long term health of our local community. I knew that I had wanted to visit some other veg festivals in other cities but the more the pondered, the more I questioned why we didn’t have one here. It just all came together in a moment of “aha” epiphany. We then brought on another intern and the three of us began the ground work for what is now the San Diego Veg Festival.

What obstacles were you forced to overcome? Like every start-up, the issues of defining ourselves such as branding and choosing particular events to participate in so that we can best serve our mission of healthy, sustainable living. Another issue we are dealing with is funding for our festival. Being that we all volunteered our time and energy, we have to look at how we want to structure ourselves so that we can continue to do this work for years to come.

What were the hardest problems to solve or actions to take? I’m in grad school for holistic health/acupuncture so that takes up a lot of my time. I also enjoy volunteering my time with progressive organizations in San Diego. Therefore, time management is a big obstacle for me. I find myself needing to be more disciplined with planning and defining my days, weeks, months.

What must you do to stay operational? Currently, we are looking at the 2013 agenda and working to acquire sponsors to at least cover the overhead costs for the venue and printing costs.

Who, if anyone, helped you succeed? Many people and things have helped San Diego Veg Festival to succeed. It’s great to know that it’s being supported by the community. It’s about the network that allows for us to do well, and we were able to pitch the idea and event to partners that have similar missions. The San Diego Veg Festival received very well reception from them. These include: the online veg-friendly community like Happy Cow and Plant Powered Living, other veg festivals across the nation, local press coverage, local businesses such as Veg Appeal, World Beat Center in Balboa Park, Jimbo’s grocery store, Loving Hut restaurant, as well as organizations like the Animal Protection and Rescue League,  Green Lifestyles Film Festival, San Diego Master Gardener Association, Pacific College of Oriental Medicine, True Kitchen Creatives, Operation Samahan, and local Community Supported Agriculture programs.

Do you have any advice for readers who want to get involved or start a similar program? Believe in your vision 110%. If you are not the most ardent, firm believer in your vision, no one else will believe in you. I would use the metaphor of growing your own garden. The seeds must be ready to be planted so know yourself well. Know your boundaries and your values. Once your seeds are ready to be sprouted, be prudent: do your research and ask for collaborative supporters! Look at the seasons. Look at the possible strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Plan accordingly and create a budget for overhead costs that you may not even anticipate but are necessary in the execution of your vision. Know the sunny days but be aware of the rainy seasons too. Like a great soil foundation, building a team can be your greatest foundation so that you don’t burn out—but not just any team…I once read: “If you are the smartest person on your team, then you do not have a strong team.” Lastly, be original and claim it. No one wants to just plant peas and radish. Add kale, strawberries and micro-greens! Make your program unique and stand out. There is a niche for almost everything. If you are a firm believer of your vision, you will cultivate supporters. Happy growing.

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Instagram: sandiegovegfest …This interview is from a  book that includes 15 other amazing people who are creating positive change. You can read the full book and buy a copy for your school at Bookemon.com