Self Defense

Win FREE SELF-DEFENSE Products in My Winter Giveaway! – Empowering and Educating Women and Youth.

Win self-defense products in my winter giveaway!

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*No purchase necessary.*

This event has 4 main goals!

1. GIVEAWAY – Write a comment on the EVENT PAGE( between now and January 5, 2016 and you will be ENTERED TO WIN either 1 Kubaton Keychain or 1 Personal Alarm Flashlight. Only ships in the USA.

2. COMMUNITY SUPPORT – I’ll donate 10% of my profits to the Women’s Resource Center. This wonderful organization offers resources and support to women, children and men who are victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. These crimes do not discriminate!
**BONUS: Every order over $100 automatically will receive for free, their choice of the keychain or alarm flashlight.

3. EDUCATE – As a self-defense instructor and survivor of violence, it is my mission in life to raise awareness about the importance of self-defense and ways we can end violence in or communities.

4. FREE SELF-DEFENSE CLASSES – The main reason I became a Damsel in Defense Rep is to fund FREE classes for women and youth.


I LOVE teaching self defense. Between experiencing violence in my youth, working at a resource center for DV and SA and the stories students share with me, teaching self defense has become my purpose.

I also love keeping my classes FREE.

With support from you and other friends I became a Damsel in Defense representative this autumn. Now I have the opportunity to fund my free classes by selling personal alarms, fashlights, pepper spray, stun guns, keychains and other personal safety products.

My goal is to receive at least 10 orders between now and January 5. Will you help me reach my goal by inviting your family and friends to this event!
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*It’s advisable to shop on a laptop or computer. Phones and tablets can be difficult.

Be sure to invite your family and friends who would benefit from self-defense awareness.

FYI:  Comments for the giveaway must appear on the Facebook event page,

I’m a certified self-defense instructor and encourage all women and girls to know their lives are important. You can learn more on the SELF-DEFENSE page. Please share this with your friends. Together we can create safer spaces.



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The Best Gift for Women is the Empowerment of Learning Self Defense

I saw it on a daily basis, women and teenage girls who walked in the door with physical bruises or weighed down by emotional scars from the hands or words of an abuser. Some were able to heal, some were not. I was working at a resource center for domestic violence and sexual assault. Despite knowing a lot about these subjects it was both an eye opening and saddening job. Thankfully many women went through counseling and were able to escape abuse, but what I realized was women need to learn how to fight not just so they can defend themselves, before they are in a situation of abuse. I learned the importance of prevention. We desperately need services like the resource center, but also  need to focus as much on teaching women not to be victims.  So in the summer of 2012 I became a certified self defense instructor.

I used to be a victim until I learned self defense. I used to be afraid until I had to fight a man off of me when I was walking across my college campus. Now and forever after I am a fighter. Victim is no longer a possibility because I know how strong I am.

Over one hundred women and girls have been brave enough to sign up for a lesson from me.  In the beginning of each class most participants hang back because they have never been taught to fight and are unsure. By the end of the class almost everyone is ready to pummel me and I love it!  We females aren’t usually taught how to fight and too many of us are discouraged from even trying.

My ask for the holiday is that you give a gift of empowerment to the women and girls in your life. You can find a local self defense class or a membership in martial arts, I recommend Akido. Learning that we deserve to fight back against physical assault encourages us to also fight against emotional and verbal attacks.

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You can give my book, “You Can Fight Back: Emotional and Physical Self Defense“. If you can’t afford the book share the link with them because it can be read entirely free on The ebook is only 99 cents on

To become proficient with any skill we must practice it often and remember what actions we need to take. Self Defense is no different and that is why I created a poster with a basic combo move that can be used in most situations. Hang it up at work, in the bedroom, or in the locker room to remind women that they are capable of defending themselves. You can order that poster on .

This year you can give a gift that will really be worthwhile.

Self Defense

Yell Fire

Ever since I worked at a local domestic violence and sexual assault center, I realized how much tragedy and pain can be stopped with simple prevention.   Every day I saw women, children and a few men who came in who were bruised, terrified and unsure of what to do. Some returned to abuse, some ran for their lives, but they all had scars. Seeing this much tragedy was depressing, but eventually it was a wake up call. It allowed me to start a new career that would lead me to help girls and women stop being victims. After creating a book and curriculum to empower young women in 2011, I decided to expand on empowering others by teaching self defense.

It is scary to fight back if you don’t know how. I know this first hand.  I spent the first 17 years of my life letting people beat me up, shove me into walls, and emotionally abuse me. I wanted to stop them, but I was too scared and worried that if I did fight back they would be able to hurt me worse. When I finally stood up to a bully in my junior year of High School and he backed down, I realized that I was strong enough to not take abuse any longer.  There have been other assaults along the way, but luckily in college I took a self defense class and have used the moves I learned there to fight off those attacks. Just having the knowledge that I can self defend has helped me overcome so many problems. It is amazing to me, how this formerly shy and scared little girl has changed into a strong woman. I finally have confidence. It didn’t happen over night. Knowing self defense is not a magical fix, but it helps a lot.

Physical self defense is only one part of what I want to do. I am working on an emotional self defense curriculum as well.  I will  teach both together in one class.  Knowing how to get out of a hold is one thing, but keeping yourself from ever being in that hold is even better. A majority of violence against women is from people we already know.  Boyfriends, fathers, uncles, bosses, co-workers, so called “friends”,  and neighbors are all people that have hurt, raped or killed a woman they were/are close to. There are very often signs that tell if someone is going to abuse you, but most women ignore the warning signs or are taught to take it. Learn more about the warning signs in my “Stand Up, Speak Up” article. Violence against women affects men as well. Our sons see us take abuse and continue the cycle because that is all they know while also losing respect for us. Our partners have no hope of a healthy loving relationship if we cannot trust them. When every male becomes a target of fear, those that would never be abusive become the enemy.

Just Yell Fire,JYF, is an organization that trains self defense instructors and I will take the training in a few weeks. Why yell fire? Because that word is more likely to get attention than “rape” or “help”. Isn’t that sad? JYF was started by a teenage girl named Dallas Jessup. She now teaches this program, with the assistance of other trainers, all over the world. Here are some videos about Dallas and Just Yell Fire:  Teen Girls Target Self Defense ClassesDo Something – Dallas, Just Yell Fire in India. You can also visit the Just Yell Fire website to find a class near you and watch free instructional videos.

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Pass this on and encourage other people to fight back instead of living as a victim.