Empowering Discussions, Social Action

Empowerment is Not Control or Denial

Individual empowerment is not about telling others that they are wrong, that what they believe is not true or keeping others from being their best.  It is not about living a lie because you are scared of your own feelings and desires.

You can only empower others by being an inspiration and sharing the change in ourselves.  Telling yourself or someone else that you are wrong for your feelings, your gender, your spiritual or religious beliefs is not going to work. You can pretend to be someone else. You can fight your instincts every day, but you will spend ALL your time and energy fighting and  not accepting yourself for who you are. Why? Is it worth it to be angry, to feel unaccepted, to feel wrong all the time?

Sure rehabilitation is something that is needed in certain cases.  Violent offenders should have a chance to change, but changing someone that uses violence is not what this post is about.

The last non-empowering news link that stuck in my head was about torturing lesbians in Ecuador under the guise of curing these women.   It is disgusting and inhumane. These “clinics” that heal with sexual assault and violence are not empowering anyone by fixing them.  Being a lesbian is not a disease.  It is a way of  life for a large chunk of the population.  Luckily actions have been taken to close these horrendous torture clinics down!

http://news.change.org/stories/victory-ecuador-ministry-of-health-investigates-and-closes-ex-gay-torture-clinics

 

Are you living a lie?  Are you taking out your own problems on those that are different than you?  Do you know someone who does?  Start paying attention to yourself and those people.  What is the root of the problem?  Why act one way and feel the complete opposite?

 

 

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Smart is Beautiful. Does your child know?

Take that all you silly shirts aimed at young girls and boys.  Telling them studying is stupid. Partying is better. blah blah blah! I would not let my daughter wear a shirt that says something along the lines of instead of homework I’d rather be at the MALL.   I am sure she would be. Well I secretly hope she will rather be saving the wetlands or fighting for human rights or heck even setting up a lemonade stand than the mall. Bu every good parent knows what a child wants is not necessarily what they need.

So thank you Justice brand clothing for this design.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!   We need this message more often. We don’t need pretty girls acting in movies and pretending to be smart. We simply need to focus more attention on smarts and less on the drama of whoever flashed their underpants on the next hot reality show.  It isn’t just about girls either,  I see ignorance and stupidity marketed to boys as well. Violence is a more popular theme with boys and it is no better than promoting a girls just want to have fun mentality. Than there are the Girls rule Boys drool.  UGH! I am sure most boys just roll their eyes,  but I’d wager it makes some feel that maybe they are lame.

 

THIS HOODIE SPEAKS THE TRUTH. SMART IS BEAUTIFUL.

I have more suggestions:

KIND IS BEAUTY

COMPASSION IS HOT

TOLERANCE IS SEXY

ACCEPTANCE IS COOL

Thanks for reading, leave a comment. WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE ON YOUR CHILDREN’S CLOTHING?

 

 

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Empowering Discussions, Social Action

Don’t Rape Me

I am in love with the message on this shirt. It says “DON’T TELL ME WHAT NOT TO WEAR. TELL PEOPLE NOT TO RAPE” http://www.becausewemust.org/new-shirt-dont-tell-me/

It’s direct, and to the point. I like a message that is very clear. Funny puns are great, but straight up telling people clearly what you want works even better!

This morning I designed a poster for domestic violence awareness. I was inspired by all those tough little girls on the playgorund that double dare and double dog dare each other to do something crazy, to be brave and have fun.

Buy this mini poster at my gift shop, http://www.zazzle.com/love_is_not_supposed_to_hurt_poster-228426404623743277🙂

Empowering Discussions

Bad news for you bunny lovers

Wearing a Playboy bunny on your clothing or accessories does not empower you. It simply makes a statement that you think it is fine for women to pose nude so men(who have been taught females simply be nude to be sexy) can sit in the office and get off to pictures and objectify women. If it doesn’t gross you out of someone your grandpas age having sex with multiple young women whom he doesn’t care about, than how about his lack of respect for a whole gender.

Hugh Hefner is not a person who wants to empower women. In a 1967 interview,he explained the ways in which women were like rabbits. The bunny “has a sexual meaning”, he said, “because it’s a fresh animal, shy, vivacious, jumping – sexy. First it smells you, then it escapes, then it comes back, and you feel like caressing it, playing with it. A girl resembles a bunny. Joyful, joking.” I’ve never “escaped”from a man and then ran back to him so I find the analogy to be simply continuing a patriarchal view.

Yes it is true that Hugh was a large contributor to Roe. Vs. Wade, the ruling that gave women the right to a safe legal abortion. Big deal! Of course he wants women to have the right to safe birth control and abortions. How else could he afford to pay the bills of all the women he would get pregnant.

You may defend Playboy saying that a woman runs it. Well I hate to be the bearer of more bad news, but women are not perfect. This is his daughter, Christie Hefner who is the company president. Seeing as she grew up with him as her father I wouldn’t put much stock in her choice to “empower” women. She makes a lot of money objectifying women.

We live in a world where it is the norm for women to be disrespected, used, raped, thrown away, burned, killed and hated by men simply because they have a vagina. There is inherent violence in pornography towards men and women, but generally it is women who are to be submissive. The popularity of rape fantasy should disturb all people despite gender.

So the bottom line is when you spend money on Playboy merchandise you are voting with your dollar that pornography is much needed in our world. It isn’t just bunny heads, but everything you spend YOUR money on you are voting for that organization to grow, to expand, to degrade anyone that can create more money for them. Need a more popular comparison? It is just like listening to Fox news, CNN, or any biased news source and paying their bills so they can make more money with advertisers.