Empowering Discussions

A Short Rant on Balanced Growth

What we desire is usually good for us because we are all unique and what we want is relevant to our self, experiences and beliefs.  The main problem seems to arise when our desires become unbalanced and then so does our life.

A popular example these days is the fairy tale debate. Do we want girls growing up into women who wait for and rely on Prince Charming to save them? Is it healthy to not fend for yourself? On the other hand are we telling them they have to be so strong they should never let a man help or support them? Should we teach our children to sick to stereotypical roles in life or should we teach them dissent. Personally, I lean towards a lot of dissent and the crushing of stereotypes. Other people lean towards assigned roles. That is fine. We are human and have free will to believe differently then anyone. I will not tell people what they should teach their kids. All I will do is give you another point of view and encourage you to ask questions instead of simply accepting everything as is. What you take away from my words are up to you.

I enjoyed princess stories and the accompanying films as a kid. I am fine with them still being around for future generations because they are fun. It’s the all encompassing addiction society has with girls being pretty little princesses who are oh so devoted to their prince that gets on my last nerve. I was both a tomboy building forts in the woods and interested in cute outfits and playing house. I loved (and still love) math and science as much as cooking and sewing. I love pretend as much as the real world.

For boys it seems to be crassness that is cherished.  Swear words are so cute when said by a 8 year old. Burping extra loud and scratching their crotch is an obvious way to be manly. Then of course there is the unequal treatment of women. Even in children’s movies boys are encouraged to see women as objects of lust or in domestic roles. They constantly see men ogling women, calling them dirty words and focusing on the size of their breasts.  I don’t want my 10 year old thinking that a woman is only as worthy as her cup size.

Let us teach our children instead that there are a variety of roles they can play.  Tell them that being a real man is not based on the size of your fist or how many women you have sex with.  Tell them that girls can be presidents, rescuers and moms when they grow up. Make sure they know that how we look does not equal how good or bad we are. Encourage friendships with the opposite gender at a young age. Lastly let them know that it is up to them to teach their children about how many choices we all have.

Balance is the word of the day people! BALANCE!

Empowering Discussions

Bad news for you bunny lovers

Wearing a Playboy bunny on your clothing or accessories does not empower you. It simply makes a statement that you think it is fine for women to pose nude so men(who have been taught females simply be nude to be sexy) can sit in the office and get off to pictures and objectify women. If it doesn’t gross you out of someone your grandpas age having sex with multiple young women whom he doesn’t care about, than how about his lack of respect for a whole gender.

Hugh Hefner is not a person who wants to empower women. In a 1967 interview,he explained the ways in which women were like rabbits. The bunny “has a sexual meaning”, he said, “because it’s a fresh animal, shy, vivacious, jumping – sexy. First it smells you, then it escapes, then it comes back, and you feel like caressing it, playing with it. A girl resembles a bunny. Joyful, joking.” I’ve never “escaped”from a man and then ran back to him so I find the analogy to be simply continuing a patriarchal view.

Yes it is true that Hugh was a large contributor to Roe. Vs. Wade, the ruling that gave women the right to a safe legal abortion. Big deal! Of course he wants women to have the right to safe birth control and abortions. How else could he afford to pay the bills of all the women he would get pregnant.

You may defend Playboy saying that a woman runs it. Well I hate to be the bearer of more bad news, but women are not perfect. This is his daughter, Christie Hefner who is the company president. Seeing as she grew up with him as her father I wouldn’t put much stock in her choice to “empower” women. She makes a lot of money objectifying women.

We live in a world where it is the norm for women to be disrespected, used, raped, thrown away, burned, killed and hated by men simply because they have a vagina. There is inherent violence in pornography towards men and women, but generally it is women who are to be submissive. The popularity of rape fantasy should disturb all people despite gender.

So the bottom line is when you spend money on Playboy merchandise you are voting with your dollar that pornography is much needed in our world. It isn’t just bunny heads, but everything you spend YOUR money on you are voting for that organization to grow, to expand, to degrade anyone that can create more money for them. Need a more popular comparison? It is just like listening to Fox news, CNN, or any biased news source and paying their bills so they can make more money with advertisers.