Fierce: A New Generation of Female Empowerment, Self Defense

Fierce Fridays: Physical Self Defense

feminist writers, learn about feminism, teaching girls feminism, Fierce, Generation of female empowerment  Welcome to week twelve of sharing excerpts from the book, Fierce: A New Generation of Female Empowerment. This book is for those who have a desire to get the most out of life. Those who want to make positive change, but are not sure how to make it happen. It is for any age female who needs a reminder of how fierce they can be. It is for young women who will soon be out of high school and on their way to college or some other adventure. Share these posts with all the girls and women in your life.  Enjoy!

Physical Self Defense

  Awareness = Prevention: Whether you are walking alone or with a group, day or night, in “good” or “bad” neighborhoods you have to BE AWARE!  If someone gets too close that’s when you make noise. Pull out your phone and make a call, put distance and space between you and them, wave and yell “Hi, Sarah” in the direction of an imaginary friend, cross the street, go inside a store, or start acting crazy and scare them off. If someone get too close firmly and loudly tell them to stop, yell NO, GET BACK, POLICE or FIRE and move away from them. If someone is less than 3 feet from your body that is your personal space and you have the right to fight back.

Legally you can physically fight back once someone touches you.

Freeze Stance: Create a firm position by standing with your legs shoulder length apart. Put your arms up as if you were doing push ups to put space between you. This is classic stance that allows you to deflect any blows to your body. Either extend and straighten your arms with your palms facing out to put distance between you OR bend your elbows and keep your hands closer to your body. Yell or in a firm clear voice say, “NO”, “STOP” or “GET BACK”. If you need to draw attention from others yell “POLICE”, “I NEED HELP” or “FIRE”.

Once you have created a physical boundary with your arms you can use one or all three of the following moves in a combination to stop the attacker.

Palm Strike: Use the heel of your palm to strike the attackers nose, eyes, cheek or forehead. Your goal is to disable the person so you can get away, so when you strike use all your strength. Step forward towards them to give yourself extra momentum. Continue to yell for help as you strike your attacker.

Groin Kick:  Kick as hard as you can. Kick with your foot or use your knee to hit the target. Use all your might to cause enough pain so they cannot hurt you. Remember, if someone is physically attacking you they want to hurt you. Don’t hesitate to hurt them so you can get to a safe place. This is a classic defense move against men because it works!

Knee Strike: This move works best if your attacker bends over from a previous hit. Grab their head or shoulders and pull them down while at the same time lifting your knee up to hit their stomach. Once you have kneed your attacker push them away from you and run to safety.

Wrist Twist: If they grab your arm use your free hand to grab and twist their wrist. Twist it as hard as you can. This will

Backwards Attack: If you are grabbed from behind stomp your foot down and dig your heel into their foot and twist your body back and forth to get out of the hold. Stomp onto their feet as much as possible. You can also propel yourself forward to knock off their balance. Throw your head back into their face. Your skull is heavy and will cause pain. Once your hands are free use the palm strike. Use your leg to kick, and your knee to hit. Run to safety.

Scratch or Bite: Scratch your attackers face, neck or arms to cause pain. Draw blood. Not only does it cause pain to be scratched, it also gives you DNA under your fingernails so if you want to report the crime you will have some proof of who attacked you. If they put a hand over your mouth keep moving your head around until you can bite their hand. You do not need to draw blood, but biting hurts and will help you get away. Don’t freak out about catching germs, if you get blood in your mouth spit it out.

Get AwayNever let an attacker bring you into a car or a building. Once they get you in a car or in their house you will most likely be beaten, raped, tortured, and killed. Smart girls and women do not get in a car with a boy, a man, or a group they barely know. Even if they have a gun or knife you are more likely to survive if you stay in public. Gang rape happens. Sex trafficking happens. Murder happens.  This information is not meant to scare you. It is meant to educate you so you are aware that danger exists and YOU have the power to protect yourself.


A combination of moves allows you to immobilize your attacker so they cannot run after you.  Just one hit may not be enough, so practice these combo moves.  Practice with a friend. Have them hold up a thick cushion or pillow and try different combinations of the above moves.  Remember to be aggressive. If you are attacked, use all your strength and anger to fight back and be a survivor not a victim…Continue reading at

Self Defense

My First Real Class

On  Sunday the 13th I will teach my first self defense class to people who are not blood relatives or friends. It’s very exciting and while I am not nervous now, I know the morning before I will be. I earned my certification back in August, but life was so busy that I only had energy to teach some friends. Over the holiday break my nieces and nephew were here and I practiced on them. Good thing I did too because I needed  a refresher. It went well and now I sleep a little better knowing they can fight back and disable any moron that tries to hurt them.

It will be a free community seminar at a local yoga/pilates studio. My hope is the class is so popular other studios ask me to teach and I can teach a follow-up class at this studio. We will go over the ABC’s, Attack By Combination with a focus on the Eyes, Ears, and Groin. Attendants will learn the best moves to disable an attacker. With the most recent publicized cases of rape, witnesses recording and bragging about rape, and the failure for our leaders to pass the Violence Against Women Act I hope for a large turnout.

You Can Fight Back: Emotional and Physical Self DefenseThe timing is also great because I just published a book to empower women on the path to self-defense, “You Can Fight Back: Emotional and Physical Self Defense” is available to read completely for free on In this book you will find instructions and diagrams on how to fight back physically and how to prevent and be aware of emotional abuse. I included my own personal story of how I stopped being a victim and advice on how to live fiercely. It is possible to fight back. There is no reason for girls and women to put up with people who joke about rape, openly objectify women, demoralize men who refuse to join in the degradation of women, and try to make the war on women sound like a something a hairy legged man hater made up.  It is imperative that we as a society stop allowing rape culture to exist.  We can no longer humiliate others as a form of comedy, and we must  express our right to no longer put down half the human race because of disgusting traditions.

If you are in the area near Carlsbad, CA this weekend you can sign up for a FREE Self Defense Seminar. This Sunday January 13th at 1-2pm for women ages 13- adult. Located in downtown at Carlsbad Village Yoga and Fitness.