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Respect and Confidence Go Hand in Hand

I originally wrote this for my empowerment website. You can see that here: http://mpwru.webs.com

Respect for yourself is necessary for a fulfilling life. Self respect cannot be bought or forced, but it is within your grasp. What exactly does it mean when people say “Believe in yourself”? Obviously you are a real living person and you don’t need to believe that you exist. What we should say is Believe in your ability to accomplish your goals. Trust your instincts, listen to that voice in your head that says maybe what I want IS possible. It may be far out of reach at this moment, but it won’t always be so far from actually happening. Confidence is not much different than self respect. You basically need one to have the other. If you are confident in your abilities than you will respect yourself. On the other hand if you don’t have any faith in your abilities than you probably feel more loser than superstar.

This shouldn’t be news to you, but doing something amazing takes skills, hard work and patience. Miracles, angels, luck, karma, coincidence; they all happen occasionally to help us achieve our goals, but we cannot rely only that to get us where we want to go. Ask any successful person about their life and they will tell you of struggles, failures, days, weeks, months or years when everything went wrong. Still they persevered, believed in their ability to accomplish what they wanted and did not listen to the voice in their head that says they could not do it.

Accomplishing a goal that is important to you will give you a great dose of self respect. When you respect yourself it is easier to respect others, because you can see the greatness we all possess and know first hand that what you once thought of as lofty dreams can become your reality.

There is probably a greet deal that you have already accomplished. If you can speak, read, walk and feed yourself than you have achieved what we call basic skills. However there is nothing basic about these skills. You did not learn to walk in a day, you crawled around for about a year and learned from trying until you could stand up and put one foot in front of the other. Apply this same principle to all of your goals and respect the process you must go though before you can achieve anything.

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No Thanks

Rejection seems to be an unavoidable side effect of trying. Try and you either win or lose, but you never know what will happen. New hopes, following your dreams, moments of insanity. Is there anyone among us who doesn’t want for something, no matter how small. We all do, and we all know that we have to take that first step and try. It can be exhilarating, exciting, nerve wracking and fun. A moment that creates a beautiful memory.

It gets dangerous when you lift your hopes up though. There is nothing quite as crushing as when you have wanted something so bad and it is rudely taken back without your consent.

Some of us want something for so long that we grasp at any and every opportunity that crosses our path. Some of us think over every move and play it like a game of chess. Then there are those of us who play it so safe for so long that once we go for something we want, we use an out of date rule book. Repeated failures and momentous rejections gives you a hopeless feeling that is almost too much to bear.
Rejection is aggravating, depressing and can dull your senses. Those butterflies in your stomach suddenly feel more like weighted bricks.

Pain, no matter how minimal or limited can be understood by everyone. We can take solace in knowing that we are not the only ones who lost. Pain makes us all similar. Maybe the grass is greener on the other side of trying. Maybe you have to simply not give up when life sends you on a seemingly impossible route.

I’d like to think that it’s better to try and then find someone to laugh about your latest fall than to give up. Maybe I don’t try as often as I should or maybe each chance I take brings me closer to trying for everything I want.


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The Battle

I do one thing wrong, then another. It doesn’t take much at all. The regrets pile up so thick and I can barely move. They surround me. Taunt me. Distract me from my goal. Momentarily stunned I sink into them letting my mistakes and missed opportunities become all I know. The past will take me down, depress me, frighten me, encompass me for days, weeks or months. Life will pass me by as I freeze with fear and doubt. I’m not good enough. Not smart enough. I dont have the resources. I belive each lie until it becomes truth. This way I dont get hurt. I am only protecting you my past says. Sure you are, I reply. I know better, but its easier to not ever try. So I wait. I cry. I am miserable. Before long a bright event or new opportunity will break through the wall I erected and I will lunge at it with all my strength. It will pull me to safety. Each time I say that is the last time, but don’t really believe myself. The battle rages on.