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Ten Scientific Steps to End Depression

If you’re serious about being happy than you must commit to change. You can’t just win the lottery or wait for a hero to save you. Depression comes from inside of us and we are the only ones that can truly heal ourselves.

I just read an article “Ten Simple Things That Will Make You Happier Backed by Science”, from Higher Perspective. I totally agree with the advice they share because it’s all steps that I used and continue using to heal myself from a lifetime of depression. Below are their 10 steps and at the end a link to their article with more details.

1. Exercise

2. Sleep

3. Shorten your daily commute

4.  Build healthy relationships

5. Get outdoors

6. Volunteer

7. Smile

8. Plan an imaginary vacation

9. Practice gratitude

10. Meditate

Get all the details at Higherperspective.com/2015/01/happy.html?utm_source=HP

Thanks Treasure Trove blog for passing this article over to me.

 

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D.I. Y. Therapy: Comparing Ourselves To Others

One of the nastiest ways we can feel bad about ourselves is when we compare our bodies, minds, and accomplishments to others. There will always be someone younger and prettier, smarter and older, or stronger and faster. So what! You have to ask yourself what truly matters. What will you focus on in this life? Your accomplishments or those belonging to another?

I learned the bad habit of comparing way back in elementary school when I compared my status to my peers. In my mind my hand me down clothes, high-water pants, and glasses made me less cool than the pretty girls and the athletic boys. I started down a path of believing and thus being less than others. Because what we believe becomes true wether it is or not. Sadly, I followed that belief through puberty, my early twenties, and all the way to 30. What I picked up was low self-esteem, debt from unhealthy retail therapy, and friends who I constantly wanted to be more like. All this was at the cost of not pursuing my own talents and practicing self-love. It was also a zip line to depression.

Nowadays I rarely compare my life to others, the thoughts occasionally pop into my mind until I become conscious of my suddenly negative outlook. At this point I can stop myself fast, but it took a lot of practice to learn how. This isn’t a super secret, it’s simply choosing not to compare and focusing on who I am and what I can do.

  • Live in the present. Don’t compare where you are to where you want to be. Challenge yourself to accomplish goals that are important to you, not goals that society defines as important. Learn what your strengths are and use those to get what you want out of life.
  • Be aware of your weaknesses. This is important because when we consciously make an effort to say no to unwanted requests or stop addicting behavior, then we have more time to spend on positives. When you start down the path of self-doubt or regret, stop and change those to positive affirmations and focus on lessons learned.
  • Focus on self care; you’ll feel and look your best when you have emotional and physical balance. Eat healthier food and pay attention to how your body feels. What put in and on our bodies affects our physical health and in turn our mental state. Check to see if your personal care products are toxic and rethink that bag of artificially flavored fried chips. Get moving! I know how my depression worsened when I laid in bed or sat around all day.

This action takes time to master, but it’s worth every moment. Once you start feeling good about yourself you won’t want to go back. The downside to changing our lifes is we often have to leave behind people who refuse to change theirs. How many times have you gone along with something because your family, friend or partner was and you wanted to be with them? This doesn’t mean you will have to leave everyone behind. Some of your cherished ones will eventually grow along with you and be able to understad your new self.

 

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Breaking Past Impossible: You Are More Than You Think

I was reading this blog post about how our challenges are the key to career success by Kim Hilman, and one sentence by the author jumped out at me. “I’ve always believed that each of us is more than we think we are – that we are capable of far more than we realize.”

I agree wholeheartedly  with that statement. The older and wiser I grow the more I see that yes we are much more than we think. Not believing that used to stop me from growing and reaching for personal and career aspirations. Finally seeing that “impossible” is just a challenge has led me on a journey to become my greatest self. It’s an amazing feeling to know you are capable.

This realization was a breakthrough in ending my seemingly permanent depression. A major reason I loathed myself was because I felt stuck in a life that was going nowhere because I mistakenly believed that what I knew at the time was all there was for me. For some reason I convinced myself that my chance to succeed was over if I hadn’t made enough strides before I was 30.

Where do we get these ridiculous ideas of limits? Society of course! We are constantly told to shoot for the stars when we are younger, but as we get older we are told to be responsible, find one thing you are good at and nothing more. Yeesh! Of course we have free will, but if you get that message enough along with hundreds of other messages about what’s right or wrong, beautiful or ugly, smart or stupid, then our minds become limited. Throw in some doubt, depression, or fear and you have a recipe for expecting nothing more than a disappointing life.

How do I know that I’m more than I think and thus so are you? Look at how much you have changed over the years. In the beginning you were dependent on a guardian to clean, clothe, and feed you. At one point you didn’t know how to read, drive, cook, solve math problems, live on your own, graduate college, etc., etc. We are constantly growing and learning. There is no set age. When my great-grandfather was in his 90’s he said that he was surprised at how much his mind had changed since he was in his 80’s. That is proof enough that we are capable of more than we think. We are always growing.

So now that you know you are more than you think it’s time to move forward with life. Continue with your education both mentally and emotionally. Learn for your career or degree and your mental health or independence. Be your greatest self!

Below are three articles about being more than you think and not allowing limits to hold you back.

Berivan Eilf Kilic was married at 15 and beaten by her husband. After 13 years she had enough of that limiting life. She divorced her abuser and worked to become the first female mayor of her town. How amazing is that! http://www.thedailybeast.com/witw/articles/2014/04/10/former-child-bride-is-elected-mayor-in-turkey.html

Then there is this 12 year old girl who already understands that limits imposed by others will not stop her from being her greatest self. Madison Kimrey wrote a letter to Phyllis Schlafely(a hypocritical anti-feminist) calling her out for trying to limit girls of this new generation with unrealistic and silly ideas.  http://samuel-warde.com/2014/04/open-letter-phyllis-schlafly-12-year-old-madison-kimrey-guest-post/

“How’s You’re Mindset” by Jane Claypool is another insightful article that goes along with this idea. http://janeclaypool.com/2014/04/14/hows-your-mindset/

 

What do you want to be and do in this short life?

What limits are holding you back from your greatest self?

What personal beliefs are stopping you from shooting for the stars?

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