Fierce: A New Generation of Female Empowerment

Fierce Friday: Let’s Talk About Sex

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Let’s Talk About Sex

  Some people argue that teenagers should not have sex. The issue with this argument is that because of hormonal changes and puberty our bodies are wired to want sex at early ages.

Some schools and organizations offer sex-education classes while others offer abstinence only programs. The goal of sex-ed is to reduce pregnancy and venereal disease. It encourages safe sex practices such as birth control pills, condoms and other contraceptives. Students are also educated about the different type and risks of STD’s.  The goal of abstinence only programs is to discourage sex all together. It tells students not to have sex and is usually based on religious or personal moral objections. These abstinence only programs do not prepare teenagers for sexual encounters, but instead encourage waiting until marriage or a more mature age to have sex.

  • Do you know about the different kinds of birth control pills?
  • Do you know how to put on a condom?
  • If you decide to have sex without protection, forget to take your birth control, or the condom breaks do you have access to emergency contraceptives (also called the morning after pill)?

Sex is not a terrible thing. It will not ruin your life. You will not go to hell because you have sex. However it does require some emotional maturity to engage in sex, and sexual activities. As you mature and become wiser, it will be easy to see that once that pre sexual innocence is gone life is never quite the same. Sex doesn’t have to be a bad experience though.

It is up to you to be the next generation of women who are neither afraid nor irresponsible about sex and can confidently say Yes or No when and only when YOU are individually ready and prepared. That means not having sex to rebel, to be popular, or just because everyone else is. They’re actually not, but some people will gladly lie and say they are to seem mature or sexy. The responsible person knows that having sex exposes themselves to STD’s and STI’s (sexually transmitted diseases/infections), pregnancy, and sometimes an emotional rollercoaster.

  • Do you feel pressure to have sex or perform oral sex on boys or girls?
  • Do you want to have sex to keep up with your friends?
  • Do you feel pressured to have sex?
  • Are you ready for the emotional effect sex often causes?
  • What do you feel makes someone ready to have sex?
  • How do you feel about having sex or giving/receiving oral sex with multiple partners?
  • How do you feel about having sex or giving/receiving oral sex) with someone you are in a relationship with?
  • What is your opinion of girls your age who have sex?
  • What is your opinion of boys your age who have sex?
  • Is there a double standard in your circle of friends, family, neighborhood, or school of boys being a stud when they have sex and girls being called a slut?
  • If you became pregnant what are your options?
  • How do you feel about abortion?
  • How do you feel about adoption?
  • Do you have access to contraception?
  • Do you have access to a doctor or clinic for abortions?
  • Do you know how to use a condom?

Yes, you can get pregnant the first time you have sex.

Yes you can get an STD even if you wear a condom.

Yes you can get an STD from giving or receiving oral sex.

No the pull out method is not safe birth control…. Continue reading at