Lessons to Learn: Judgement

Over the past year I have learned so much and grown so much that sometimes I feel so high and mighty. Than my ego gets the best of me and life serves me up a lesson or two.

I was one of those kids with pathetically low self-esteem that was bullied from Elementary school until my Junior year in High school when I finally stood up to a bully. I hated that people would judge me based on something stupid I said, how I dressed or the variety of my family and roots.  Yet looking back I can see that I am as guilty as anyone of judging. I see people walking down the street doing something I don’t like and I judge them. I hear people say ignorant things and I judge them. I get offended by an offhand comment and in my mind I ruthlessly judge that person.

Just because my judgments are not said doesn’t mean they don’t have an effect on me or anyone else. My body language, actions, and tone of voice speak my judgement loud and clear.  

This is one of those lessons that life continually sets down right in front of me and asks why are you being so darn judgmental?   Luckily the more I pay attention and listen to life the less judging goes through my mind.  It is NOT my place to tell others how to act. It is NOT my duty to set them straight.  It is NOT going to hurt me if someone is different from me.

It is my job to allow others to be as they are and to love myself. It is my duty to focus on my own actions and let what I do speak as loud as any words.

 HOW OFTEN DO YOU FIND YOURSELF JUDGING ANOTHER?

 HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL WHEN YOU JUDGE ANOTHER? 

HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOU ARE JUDGED?