What is your self-care win this week? In this mini-podcast I talk about my self-care win of not being codependent. After a lifetime of acting codependent. Here is a story of how I lost my codependency last summer.
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When a few of my friends moved away last summer, I was feeling sad and lonely. One of those friends didn’t say goodbye. I was hurt. For about two weeks I felt sorry for myself and wondered how soon I could make new friends. Then I remembered the quote “Just because you think you’re stuck, doesn’t mean you are.” (Coincidentally this was from a codependency group.) I meditated and set boundaries. I removed the phone number of the friend who didn’t feel the need to say goodbye and stopped following her on Instagram. The first two weeks were rough. I wanted to reach out, but I knew that I had reached out enough. I knew deep in my bones that it was time to let them go on with their journey. This happened quickly, but in reality it was years of therapy that brought me to this point.
Six months later, I haven’t feel codependent towards them or any of my friends. When I occasionally start feeling the need to reach out I first search for other options, like going for a hike by myself, or stopping at a cafe for a drink and a book or language study session. It’s amazing because I never realized that I could feel this way. I didn’t know that I was codependent or that I needed to work on this issue, but I am feeling like a real winner about it.
- What is one if your self-care wins?
- How are you at setting boundaries?
- How often do you place your needs first, second, third to others?
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I challenge you to stop that thought right now. Go look in the mirror and tell yourself “I am not a loser. I am a unique, beautiful, imperfect being and that is the truth.”
This mini-podcast is about challenging how we perceive ourselves and changing our inner dialogue. I believed the worst about myself for years and it totally wrecked my life.
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Mirror work isn’t some fluffy idea, it’s used in professional therapy. Here is a link to learn more about mirror work. “Because the mirror reflects back to you the feelings you have about yourself. It makes you immediately aware of where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing…” from Louisehay.com/what-is-mirror-work/
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Peace and hugs, Leah
I’ve been on a roll making nature art this winter. I can’t walk anywhere without seeing potential. Mother nature’s palette is abundant, always transforming. Leafs change color, flowers bloom, rocks brighten with rain drops, branches fall. There is no lack in the material available. I was almost late to work the other day because I stopped at the park and began making a wreath with some beautiful, bushy, bright yellow flowers that had fallen off of a tree. Of course I had to arrange them. I couldn’t just walk on by. Luckily when I pulled out my phone to take a photo of my art, I saw the time and rushed off to work, arriving just a minute late. I hope you enjoy these pieces as much as I do.
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The start to any journey begins with a commitment. The start to a healing journey starts with setting an intention. This mini podcast is about setting that intention so that we don’t backslide into our unwanted habits.
This is the second episode in my mini-podcast series about healing depression. I want to say a big THANK YOU to my patrons on Patreon who support my creative healing work. You can meet a few of them on the Wall of Fame page.
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Surround yourself with loving words, thoughts, and actions. Just like I surrounded this pine tree with protective pine cones.
– What do I need to do to feel loved and supported?
– Do I have loved ones who support me?
– If not, how can I support myself?
Self-care means diving deep into our mental, emotional, and physical health. You can do this with journaling, meditation, and creativity. Do what feels healthy. Set boundaries with your addictions. If you need extra help, reach out to a loved one or mentor. Don’t hide when you need loving support. Ask for it.
Peace and hugs, Leah
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