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Lesson Five: Declutter Your Life and Closet

To heal we need space, both mentally and physically. Think of a crowded room, you can’t redecorate or enjoy the full space if there is no room to move. The first step to clearing space is to start unlearning things that stop us from following our dreams. Clarity also allows to practice self-care because we have more space to focus on what we love and need.

Part One: Declutter Your Mental Closet

I spent a lifetime gaining stuff, not nice quality stuff, just stuff to fill my closet. Things cluttered up my life along with millions of thoughts that I never had enough. Does this sound familiar? Below are my most common thoughts that have cluttered my brain and pushed out the loving, clear and innovative thoughts I really believe.

Thoughts to get rid of:

“I’m Not Good Enough.

“If Only I Had….”

“Why Am I Such a Failure?”

“Why Is Everyone Else Happy All the Time?”

Now be still and be mindful. Are these thoughts helping you or holding you back? While it’s important to be realistic, negativity, doubt and anger are clutter that keeps clear and innovative thoughts from shining through.

One trick to changing your thoughts is using proactive and kind words. You need to train your brain to think positively. “Positive” does not mean you need to be a constant ray of sunshine. Teach yourself to steer clear of thoughts that fill you with doubt in regard to areas of your life where you thrive. Negative thoughts that devalue your characteristics, natural talents, skills and accomplishments are not helpful.

Action: Write the following statements in your journal:

CHANGE “I’m not good enough” to “I’m great at (insert your strengths/skills).” or “I may not be an acclaimed author yet, but I’m learning how right now and that’s good enough.”

CHANGE “If only I had…” into “I actually do have (insert item/action).” or “I know that I can work towards what I need.”

CHANGE “Why am I such a failure?” to ” I’m successful at (insert your accomplishments).” or “It’s okay to fail, even as often as I do. What matters is that I will keep moving forward.” or “I believe in myself, I trust myself, I love myself.”

CHANGE “Why is everybody else happy all the time?” to “I will not compare myself to others.” or “It’s okay to feel unhappy sometimes.” or “What is bothering me and how can I fix it?”

*Another trick to change your thoughts is to ask if the thought is valid. If it’s not than remind yourself what is true. A fun practice is to write down negative thoughts on a piece of scrap paper and either tear it up into the recycling bin or burn it in a safe manner.

Part Two:

Declutter your actual closet too! Think of how hard it is to find something to wear when your clothes are scattered across your room, shoved in drawers and laying on the floor of your closet. (If you’ve NEVER had a messy closet, then think of a time and place when you had to search for something in a bunch of clutter.) Once you’ve picked up and organized your clothing it’s easier to see what you absolutely love to wear and what needs to go.

You don’t have to be a minimalist and I’m not encouraging you to give away all your material belongings. For me doing a regular spring cleaning of my material belongings has allowed me to live a healthier life. By only keeping what I need, use and cherish I’ve become less interested in the retail game. How much do you consume each day? Take a good look and be honest with yourself. Consumerism stems from ‘consume’ which is defined as “to use up a resource”. I don’t want to be a uncaring consumer! In our quest for good mental health we also must be conscious of the health of our world. The more resources we use up, the less healthy we all will be.

One of the ways I declutter is by putting things I don’t use in a box near my door. If I haven’t used it in a few months than I probably don’t need it. I can then either donate it, give it away or recycle it. This keeps my drawers free of clutter.


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