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Lesson Three: Your Inner Guidance System and Happiness

Inside us is the power for immense change and wonderful success IF we follow our intuition. So, what is intuition? It’s a unique feeling to different people. For many people it’s a feeling in their gut that something is or is not quite right. For others, it may feel more mental or emotional. While you may feel pressured or expected to do something, your gut or brain may tell you not to do that. Listening to your intuition when you’re lost or if someone is manipulating you is much better than blindly walking a path you are unsure of following.

Following Your Truth:

Life is challenging and how we react to this is what decides our happiness. We can give up or we can move forward. For many years I gave up. Because I felt hopeless, I barely tried at life and ended up wallowing in pain and depression that lasted way too long. Luckily, I woke up and realized that my life was in my control. I taught myself to be happy by trusting my struggle and staying focused on my own truth.

How did I find my truth? By asking myself questions and then taking action to see what felt best for me.

  • What makes me happy in the long run as opposed to instant gratification?
  • What are my true passions?
  • Am I willing to move forward beyond my fear and live a life that resonates as true happiness with my inner self?

Once I began to answer these questions I was able to take action. I started writing and creating art, became a self-defense instructor, returned to my love of gardening, read every self-help book I could find and asked for help. It wasn’t easy. Some days are hard and I forget my truth, but I always come back. I know that you can do this too. You just have to make the choice to find your truth and LIVE IT!

An important aspect of staying happy is to find things and activities that make you feel good AND are also good for you. You probably won’t find happiness at the bottom of a tequila bottle or immersing yourself in angry or sad entertainment. When I was in the process of healing I gave up those things for more positive entertainment. This gave me positive reinforcement throughout my daily life. I could see the change in my thoughts which in turn changed my feelings.

To protect my mental health I use my self-care list, ask for hugs, think positive affirmations and find a balance of time alone and time with people who love me without judgement. To keep my physical body feeling good I eat food that makes my body feel good and give myself a good dose of movement. I’m very aware of what I need both mentally and physically.

Remember there will be days and moments when you won’t be happy. That’s okay. You’re an imperfectly perfect being. Embrace that reality and RELEASE the expectation to always be bright and cheerful.

An important aspect of self growth and healing from depression is accepting yourself. If you want to feel balanced and healthy you can’t spend all your energy fighting who you are. Instead you must learn to be genuine and love the parts of you that are both embarrassing and wonderful.

Action: Self Discovery Questions!

Below are seven questions to give you insight into your genuine self. After you answer these questions meditate on your responses.

  1. Who am I?
  2. What labels have been assigned to me by others?
  3. What about myself do I criticize? Why?
  4. What about myself do I celebrate? Why?
  5. What do I believe about myself that is not true?
  6. Who do I want to be?
  7. What can I cultivate to become my best self?

Write these self-discovery questions and answers in your journal.


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